In our ongoing romantic relationships, whether or not sex is involved, we have great responsibilities to ourselves and to our partners. We need to
- Listen and be listened to. We need to hear our partners’ thoughts, feelings, and ideas. We should also expect our partners to care about what we have to say.
- Be honest and expect honesty. We need to be truthful with each other about what we do, think, and feel.
- Share our feelings and expect our partners to share theirs. We need to be able to say what is on our minds and know that we will react to one another respectfully.
- Disagree and allow disagreement. Partners often have different desires, opinions, and ideas. They have the right to think differently. Partners need to respect each others’ unique points of view.
- Be fair and expect to be treated fairly. Partners need to be considerate of each other and treat each other equally in their relationships.
- Consider our partners’ needs and have ours considered. Decisions that affect both partners should be made together with one another’s well-being in mind. Partners need to be able to compromise.
- Give support and be supported. Partners need to support one another’s emotional needs.
- Help our partners feel good about themselves and expect the same in return. Partners need to acknowledge one another’s efforts and accomplishments.
- Forgive and expect forgiveness. No one is perfect, and making mistakes is a normal part of life. If we apologize and are forgiven, we can move on. We shouldn’t constantly remind one another of past mistakes.
- Let our partners use their own money as they like and expect the same in return. We should all be allowed to make our own decisions on how we spend our own money. We also have a responsibility to live up to whatever financial commitments we have made together.
- Respect our partners’ needs for other relationships and expect the same in return. We all have a right to friendships outside of our primary relationships. Spending time apart with family and friends is normal and healthy.
- Respect our partners’ privacy and need for time apart and expect the same in return. We all need privacy and time apart from one another — alone or with others. It is not fair to be angry or treat someone badly for wanting time apart.
- Respect our partners’ need to feel safe and secure and expect the same in return. We all need to always feel safe and secure. Physical or emotional abuse, threats, or violence are deal breakers and end our responsibility to try to maintain our relationships.
- Respect our partners sexually and expect the same in return.Whenever we have sex, we should be attentive to each other’s pleasure. We should always have each other’s consent, and we should never use pressure to get consent. We should share in the responsibility of guarding ourselves and our partners against unintended pregnancy and sexually transmitted infection. And we should always be clear about what we want to do and respect what our partners want to do sexually.
- via Planned Parenthood
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